Youngsters sexual activity is making parents squirm as the Australian news headlines in the last week have featured five articles about how young and how sexually active pre-teens are!
This article focuses on professionals claiming that parents and schools are merely discussing the biology and not responding to the real questions youngsters have which is more about technique meaning that they already understand the terminology. Denmark and Holland are held up as examples of teaching children much younger and more factually by addressing core issues, sexual diversity and sexual assertiveness. They have well documented results including lower rates of STI’s and unwanted teen pregnancies.
Please scroll down two and read my recent post on Teen Porn and Pregnancy? A review about a DVD could not be circulated due to it’s mature content – can you spot anything offensive? I find this absolutely shocking considering the blatant nature of youngsters activity … this Australian DVD was a TV series where therapists, sex coaches & scientists give Luke McGregor, an awkward comedian, a crash course on sex. [available from ABC iView for $20]
Please note that I am not suggesting that you buy it for your youngsters – my suggestion is to buy it for yourself! Learn more, be more open and then try that birds and bees talk with the kids. And most of all let them take the lead, ask what they want to know. Better they learn about it more factually from you than gossip behind the toilet block where two 12 yo’s raped a 6 yo!
The DVD addresses many myths, educates in an open and respectful manner about many things from knowing yourself, to exploring each other, being comfortable with nudity and ways to pleasure each other all done in a clear and humorous manner. To raise awareness of sexually transmitted diseases, for example, his ‘mates’ crowd out his flat in their black t-shirts labelling all the possibilities from herpes to AIDS to chlamydia, etc.
This educational series is long overdue and we can learn much thus enabling future generations a more comfortable and comprehensive education than we experienced. And believe me you will pass it around your family, friends and neighbours once you get over your initial shyness about the topic!