Ready 2 Exit?

Time and Cause of Death are UNcertain!
Are You Prepared for Your Final Curtain?

End of life and death issues creep into a few people’s blogs and as this is Palliative Care week and an area I worked in for years lets’ start the discussion. Best to confront the unknown, our fear or denial, of death as this enables us to enjoy life more fully!

Many fear leaving the known – family/friends, work, home and belongings – but these things can’t journey with us. Next is the fear that our pain may not be controlled – well relax if reported correctly all physical pain can be controlled. But medications cannot touch our emotional or spiritual pain, best to deal with those now or talk them through with a confidant – friend, professional or chaplain. Thirdly people fear they may struggle for breath near the end but medication does keeps the body relaxed.

Palliative Care teams will ensure that you can die comfortably at home or in care with you and your loved ones fully supported. These teams address all issues arising  with trained volunteers and professionals who specialise in pain management .

Preparing your Will, completing Advanced Health Directives and Power Of Attorney forms relevant to your location ensures that your wishes are known and abided by. Discussing issues such as cremation or burial, funeral service and organ donation also takes pressure off loved ones making decisions without knowing your wishes.

What comes after death … we can only speculate!

Here is an excellent brief article that says it all well!





    • Thank you for even engaging! This post has been avoided by most, my lowest viewed post in months …

      I struggle with that – a topic that impacts on every living creature and NOONE will talk about it???!

      Didn’t realise that denial and avoidance was that pervasive!

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  1. Important topic, but one most people would prefer to avoid. Burying ones head in the sand may prevent the reality of death and dying. Don’t be disappointed in the blog statistics. This is an important topic and needs to be seen multiple times before many are brave enough to confront this inevitable experience in life. You offer many good suggestions and provide obvious experience explaining the fearful component of pain. Humanizing death is a big challenge. I think you did it well.

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    • Sadly most think they are immortal … If i was bothered about stats I wouldn’t have gone there. My much earlier post on cancer – guidelines on how to support someone – only just got ten views. Yet people who blog about their major health issues seem to have a huge following … just don’t get it.

      But much thanks for your kind words and support. Poems on the topic will follow but might do some more mundane, less threatening topics in between.

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      • 👍 I went the whole 9 yards as they say including columbarium niche bought and Mental Incapacity Act in case I go el nutso! I just do not like bothering the living when I am el goner! Thanks….one day at a time. Be happy😉

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        • I’ve had a will since my teens and only a few years ago did the Health Directive, donated my corpse to the medical school, etc just in case of accident or stroke, etc. Do feel others would appreciate knowing our preferences should we become incapacitated. You are a smart cookie!

          Much easier to get on with living once that’s organised.

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    • never actually heard of it Rupali, I’m more an alternative medicine person .. have worked in health for many years and have little faith in doctors/surgeons and even less in drugs .. is it worth reading?

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      • Unfortunately I do not have the book. But soon will buy it.
        Here is the review from

        Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End
        by Atul Gawande who tackles the hardest challenge of his profession: how medicine can not only improve life but al

        Gawande offers examples of freer, more socially fulfilling models for assisting the infirm and dependent elderly, and he explores the varieties of hospice care to demonstrate that a person’s last weeks or months may be rich and dignified. Full of eye-opening research and riveting storytelling, Being Mortal asserts that medicine can comfort and enhance our experience even to the end, providing not only a good life but also a good end.

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        • thanks for the detail, I worked in hospice care for many years, it’s all about quality of life not quantity .. and those doctors were are real pleasure to work with, they understood pain control and the death process 🙂

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